Fuck, shit, asshole, cock, cunt, pussy, tits, nigger, spic, fag. They're just words; letters of the alphabet grouped together. "Faggot" is no more or less of a word than "mongoose". To take a trip back to the blacktop of my youth at recess, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
The only way words can hurt you is if you let them. People's actions should offend you, not their words. You should be more offended by the person who is nice to your face and pisses in your drink than you are by the person who calls you names. People who call me names just make me laugh. If they're trying to hurt my feelings, they need not bother. I have to actually care about your opinion before you can say anything to affect me.
Truth is, profanity can often express a point in a way other language cannot. If you're searching for just the right adjective to describe something, sometimes the right word is "blue", other times the right word is "shitty". Whatever word best expresses the point I'm trying to make is the word I'll use. For example, if I'm reviewing a film, and I don't like the dialog, there are a number of ways to describe it. "The dialog is bad." "The dialog is awful." "The dialog is shitty." "The dialog is as tired as your mama's drooping ass!" As a writer, it's my decision to use the words which best convey my feelings about the dialog. And if I'm being honest about it, "shitty" might be the best word. I'm not going to censor myself because I think someone might be offended by my use of any particular word. Fuck them. If they are easily offended, they are better off not reading my shit, anyway. They should feel lucky they are not currently on the receiving end of one of my triple-spin-flip ninja leg drops.
Recently, I became aware of a high school in Texas that was considering banning my website (for all I know, I may be banned by now). I have to wonder: what am I doing so terrible that high school kids can't handle? If you think I'm offensive and profane, you obviously are not paying attention to what goes on in your own school (check out
this teenager's language, for example). I realize that just because someone else is doing it, does not make it okay. My point is, educators need to be focused on educating, and nothing is more educational than this website. Stick with me and you'll earn a Ph.D. in logic, reasoning, and common sense.
Profanity and loaded words are nothing to fear. Nothing to be hidden in the closet. Very much like the dominant sexual attitude of this country, everyone is made to feel guilty for what they like or what they do. Like big breasts? Better not ever mention it, because some touchy-feely moron might take offense. But it's just a preference, isn't it? Some people like fast blue cars, others like big beautiful boobs. Some folks prefer delicious ham sandwiches, others prefer huge magnificent tits. What's wrong with that? Why does it matter? Similarly, some people talk all sweet and pretty, with all the politically correct buzzwords, and never say anything worth listening to. While other people speak more colorfully and have valid points to make. Fuck you if you don't like it. As they say ... change the fucking channel! But do not change somebody else's channel for them, change your own fucking channel and let the rest of us decide for ourselves, bitch.